What do Kimonos, Alter Egos, and Confidence have in common? 

Well, I just love this kimono. (Thank’s Aleyah:) I do have a tiny collection of kimonos. I just love the ease & grace they make me feel when I slip one on whether it’s an animal print, floral or graphic. To me, they’re light, fun and free and bring out a softer side of my personality.
I suppose my personal style and energy can be a bit much at times and even a little like biker babe, meets samurai warrior, meets yogi. 😂

I hate when people try to put you in a box, limit or try to label you based on something that really is just a fun tool of expression.
Saying things like, why are you wearing that? You look like a hippy or why are you trying that?
Projecting their own limitations and prejudice onto you.

We all have powerful variations of our authentic selves that can come to life through our clothes and accessories.

It is just one simple way to explore and bring out more aspects of your personality and a fun way to step into your alter ego.
Your alter ego is not about creating a false mask—it’s about embodying the superhero already inside you.

It’s a proven way of overcoming the self-doubt, negativity, and insecurity that holds you back, and empowers you to ultimately become your best self.
Think OPRAH, Wonder Woman, Superman, Michael Jordan…whoever floats your boat.

😊I know you almost always see me in yoga pants, black tanks, bare-bones makeup (which is my daily go-to).
Why? Because, it’s one less decision I have to fret over & in fact makes my life easier, makes me feel more resilient & adaptable in my day-to-day work.

👍As a leader, spiritual teacher, coach, momma, wife, entrepreneur, business owner, & animal lover… I too wear lots of hats.
I am in many situations that demand different levels of activity, skills, expertise & consciousness. Sometimes, clothes or accessories are like little power tools that help me embody more playfulness, flexibility or hold space and command energy differently.

I know it sounds really silly. However, there is quite a bit of fascinating science behind this thing called the alter ego. Most, if not all, super athletes embody this.🏊‍♀️🚵‍♀️🧗‍♂️🏇🏻🏌🏻‍♂️🏄🏻‍♂️

I’ve been using alter egos unknowingly since I’ve been 16 and for over 20 years when I was leading sales or instructor teams.
I do remember people would often tell me I was scary or unapproachable.
👉🏻🤪I had big energy, confidence, and drive. Go figure. 🙂I AM INTENSE. Very pssionate and driven.

👉🏻I found various accessories & posturing made me more relatable and approachable like a simple pair of glasses.

👉🏻I also remember someone telling me when I was in my mid-20s that I was not a leader. That I was too young and inexperienced, not the right credentials 🧠yadda, yadda…
This was at a time when I was, in fact, leading hundreds of souls/employees daily.

All that to say these few takeaways:
1. Don’t ever let someone crush your confidence or tell you that you are not something, worthy or capable because it doesn’t fit into their neat little box of beliefs, labels, and experiences.

2. Don’t ever confuse a strong woman’s boundaries or self-confidence as bitchiness or as unapproachability. Many, very successful and talented women and men I know have strong boundaries on their time, energy and attention.
Many of the most successful people I know…can also struggle with imposter syndrome at times and especially when leveling up.
They are, in fact, some of the most nurturing, loving, giving cheerleaders/friends I know.
Lean in and learn.

3. Don’t’ have the self-confidence you need for something new or challenging? Make it your priority to discover your alter ego, the things that light you up and helps you to step into your superpowers.
Play with accessories, clothes, etc.
Find things that help you embody your inner superhero, sage, healer, super mom, teacher, leader, world changer, visionary or lover.

Remember all mastery comes through play, play, play.
Live soul fueled,
Tamara Gold

MindBody Expert, Neuro Coach


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